Thinking of Having a Party? in Lifestyle

We give our advice on how to help you deal with any party related worries or fears.

In the words of Kevin Bridges:

"They never knew they were having a party. Perhaps ‘having’ was the wrong choice of words... they were getting a party"

Having a group of friends round to your house, or having your first ‘empty’ or house party can feel really exciting and at times a bit scary, if only for the amount of cleaning you will have to do the next day!

As funny as Kevin Bridges ‘empty’ joke is, it can sometimes feel like your gathering or party is getting out of control before it even begins. Maybe more people have found out about it than you intended or you’re worried about your valuables going missing!

I am having some friends around next weekend when my parents are away for the night. What happens if it gets too noisy?

This is a good question, and one that is much easier to prevent than to fix. The easiest way to keep the noise down would be to only invite a few people. If however your guest list does get a bit bigger than expected don’t worry - you are still in control. Keep control of the music; if you’re in control of the music then you control the volume. Make sure all your doors and windows are shut so that the noise doesn’t travel outside. Also try and keep the party inside; you’re much less likely to noise get complaints from your neighbours if your friends aren’t outside screeching through their version of Katy Perry’s ‘Firework’ wearing comedy moustaches at 11.30pm.

What happens if my neighbours complain about my party or call the police?

Sometimes worrying about your neighbours making a complaint can stop you enjoying your party. You could visit your neighbours before having people round and tell them you are having friends over and will try to keep noise to a minimum. Your neighbours will more than likely appreciate the thought and be more tolerant towards any noise. Remember anyone over the age of 10 can get an ASBO if they are caught behaving anti-socially, which includes, playing loud music at night and displaying drunk or threatening behaviour. You could also get in trouble if you supply alcohol to people under the legal drinking age of 18. So keep your wits about you and spare a thought for your neighbours.

What if people gatecrash my party?

This is a common worry and rightfully so. The media has documented many parties that have become seriously out of control. They have posted facebook invites which have been shared over and over again, and before you know it half of Scotland is on your doorstep. This doesn’t have to be the case for your party. If you are going to put your party on Facebook, Twitter or social media, be aware of who can see your invite. Make your event private and only invite close friends to see the event. Invite only the people you want there and choose friends you trust that way it hopefully won’t spread around the school and end up with you ‘getting a party’ instead of having one.

What if something gets stolen or damaged from my house?

Again think of who you are inviting to your party. Having half of 5th in year house doesn’t mean you will be the most popular person in school it just means they are at your party. Invite trustworthy people and close friends only. It’s always safer to lock any valuables away in a safe place. Remember it’s your party make it very clear when people arrive where they are allowed to go in your house. Keep a few rooms that are out of bounds and keep priceless heirlooms and childhood photos safely locked away in there. 

What can I do if I really want everyone to leave?

This can also be prevented if you only invite friends you know and trust. If you get to the point you just want everyone out then it can get tricky. Start by letting everyone know you are getting tired and are going to bed soon. Hopefully people will start leaving, the next stage would be to turn the music off and get rid of any drinks / snacks (act as if you are tidying and you will come across less of a “spoilsport”). Help people out by calling taxis and arranging who can share a lift together. If you are really struggling to get the last few stragglers to leave then you may need to get an adult involved. Remember it’s better to be in a wee bit of trouble by needing help to get someone out of your house rather than a lot of trouble if the last few hangers-on steal from or damage your house.

Remember: Ask the home-owners permission, don’t provide alcohol for under-agers and lock away your valuables. Enjoy your party!